时间：04/20/2024 04/21/2024
地点：星河禅修中心
主讲：黄云全
佛法修行
有爱就有痛苦
有一次，佛陀在憍萨罗国的首都舍卫城游化，住在城南郊外的祇树给孤独园。
那时，舍卫城里有一位婆罗门居士，他所钟爱的独子死了，使他深受打击，因而丢下工作，茶不思饭不想，常常到他儿子的坟前思念悲泣，几乎就要崩溃了。
这天，这位婆罗门居士漫无目标地走着，正好来到祇树给孤独园，就进去拜见佛陀。
佛陀见他精神萎靡，魂不守舍的样子，便问他原因。
婆罗门居士将他失去爱子的事，悲伤地向佛陀诉说了。
佛陀听了，回答婆罗门居士说：
「正是这样啊，居士！如果有了爱，就跟着有忧、悲、恼、苦，愁戚、哭泣。」
「瞿昙！怎么这样说呢？瞿昙！你应当知道，如果有了爱，就有快乐啊！」
佛陀再三地说，婆罗门居士再三地反对，然后不满地离开了。
婆罗门居士走出祇树给孤独园，看到一群人正在路旁赌博，心想：赌博人大多比较聪明，我来请他们评评理。
结果，那群赌博的人都同意婆罗门居士的看法，认为如果有了爱，就有快乐。婆罗门居士听了很满意，点头离去。
这件事，在市井小民的茶余饭后里传开了，还传进王宫，到了波斯匿王的耳里。
波斯匿王也质疑佛陀的教说，就去问末利皇后。
末利皇后是虔诚的佛弟子，深知佛法，所以回答大王说：
「是啊，大王！正是这样啊，大王！如果有了爱，就跟着有忧、悲、恼、苦，愁戚、哭泣。」
「末利！当弟子的，一听到传言中老师怎么说，就附和了。沙门瞿昙是你的老师，所以你就跟着附和。」
「大王！不相信的话，你可以自己去问世尊啊，派人去也可以。」
于是，波斯匿王派一位名叫「那利鸯伽」的婆罗门，去问佛陀。
佛陀告诉那利鸯伽婆罗门说：
「那利鸯伽！我问你，如果有一个人，他的母亲去世了，或者父、兄、姊、妹去世了，是不是会哀伤崩溃呢？所以，可见得如果有了爱，就跟着有忧、悲、恼、苦，愁戚、哭泣。
从前，这舍卫城里有一对恩爱的新婚夫妻，只是不久后，夫家家道中落，为娘家所嫌弃。有一次，妻子回娘家，娘家的人逼她改嫁，丈夫知道了，不愿意妻子被夺，结果，丈夫杀了妻子，然后自杀殉情。那利鸯伽！从这件事也可以知道，如果有了爱，就跟着有忧、悲、恼、苦，愁戚、哭泣。」
那利鸯伽婆罗门将佛陀所说的，带回去禀报波斯匿王，证实了末利皇后的说法。
这时，末利皇后更进一步地为国王作了解说：
「大王！你爱你的儿子毘琉璃吗？」
「爱啊！」
「大王！如果毘琉璃有个三长两短，那你会怎样呢？」
「末利！如果毘琉璃有个三长两短，我会愁戚、哭泣、忧苦、烦恼、懊悔。」
「大王！所以，有知有见、全然正觉的世尊会说：『如果有了爱，就跟着有忧、悲、恼、苦，愁戚、哭泣。』
大王，同样的，你的爱臣尸利阿荼、爱女婆夷利、爱妃雨日盖，或者领土迦尸与憍萨罗有了无常变化，你也会愁戚、哭泣、忧苦、烦恼、懊悔的，由此更可以证明：『如果有了爱，就跟着有忧、悲、恼、苦，愁戚、哭泣。』
大王！你爱我吗？」
「爱啊！」
「一旦我有个三长两短的，大王会怎样？」
「末利！那我一定会愁戚、哭泣、忧苦、烦恼、懊悔。」
「大王！想想这些情况，就不难知道确实是『如果有了爱，就跟着有忧、悲、恼、苦，愁戚、哭泣』了。」
「太精彩了，末利！太不可思议了，末利！世尊智慧的洞察与所见，是多么地深彻啊！
来吧！末利！帮我把礼敬前净身用的水拿来。」
于是，波斯匿王起身，漱口、洗手脚，整理衣服，露出右肩，向佛陀所在的方向合掌行礼，然后三称「礼敬世尊」。
Date: 04/20/2024 04/21/2024
Location: Star River Meditation Center
Teacher: Yunquan Huang
Dharma Talk
Where There Is Love, There Is Pain
Once, the Buddha was wandering in the capital of the Kosala kingdom, Shravasti, and stayed in the Jeta Grove, in the park of Anathapindika.
At that time, there was a Brahmin lay follower in Shravasti whose beloved only son had died, causing him immense grief. He abandoned his work, lost interest in eating and drinking, and often wept at his son’s grave, nearly breaking down.
One day, as the Brahmin lay follower wandered aimlessly, he came to the Jeta Grove and went in to see the Buddha.
Noticing his distraught appearance, the Buddha inquired about the cause.
The Brahmin lay follower shared his sorrow over losing his son with the Buddha.
The Buddha responded:
”Indeed, lay follower, where there is love, there follows worry, grief, annoyance, suffering, sorrow, and weeping.”
”But Gautama, how can you say that? Gautama, you should know that where there is love, there is joy!”
The Brahmin lay follower repeatedly disagreed, and then left dissatisfied.
After leaving the Jeta Grove, the Brahmin saw a group of people gambling by the road and thought: Gamblers are often clever, let me ask them for their opinion.
The gamblers all agreed with the Brahmin, believing that love brings joy. Satisfied with their response, the Brahmin nodded and left.
This incident spread among the common folk and even reached King Pasenadi of Kosala.
King Pasenadi questioned the Buddha’s teachings and consulted Queen Mallika.
Queen Mallika, a devout follower of the Buddha and well-versed in his teachings, confirmed:
”Yes, my lord! Indeed, where there is love, there follows worry, grief, annoyance, suffering, sorrow, and weeping.”
”Mallika, you just echo what you hear about your teacher. Since the ascetic Gautama is your teacher, you simply agree with him.”
”My lord, if you don’t believe it, you can ask the Blessed One yourself or send someone.”
So, King Pasenadi sent a Brahmin named Narayana to inquire with the Buddha.
The Buddha explained to Narayana:
”Narayana, let me ask you, if someone loses their mother, father, brother, sister, wouldn’t they be distraught? Thus, it’s evident that where there is love, there follows worry, grief, annoyance, suffering, sorrow, and weeping.
In the past, in Shravasti, there was a loving newlywed couple. But soon, the husband’s family fell into hard times and was scorned by the wife’s family. Once, when the wife visited her family, they forced her to remarry. Learning of this, the husband, unwilling to lose his wife, killed her and then himself in a tragic act of passion. Narayana, this also shows that where there is love, there follows worry, grief, annoyance, suffering, sorrow, and weeping.”
Narayana relayed the Buddha’s words to King Pasenadi, confirming Queen Mallika’s statements.
Queen Mallika further explained to the king:
”My lord, do you love your son Vidudabha?”
”Yes, I do.”
”My lord, what would happen if something were to befall Vidudabha?”
”Mallika, if anything happened to Vidudabha, I would be sorrowful, weep, be distressed, annoyed, and regretful.”
”My lord, thus, the fully enlightened, all-seeing Blessed One says: ‘Where there is love, there follows worry, grief, annoyance, suffering, sorrow, and weeping.’
Similarly, my lord, if anything were to happen to your beloved minister Silavat, your daughter Vajiri, your consort Yudhagama, or if there were changes in the regions of Kasi and Kosala, you would also be sorrowful, weep, be distressed, annoyed, and regretful. This further proves: ‘Where there is love, there follows worry, grief, annoyance, suffering, sorrow, and weeping.’
My lord, do you love me?”
”Yes, I do.”
”What would happen if I were to face misfortune?”
”Mallika, I would surely be sorrowful, weep, be distressed, annoyed, and regretful.”
”My lord, considering these situations, it’s not difficult to see that it is indeed true that ‘Where there is love, there follows worry, grief, annoyance, suffering, sorrow, and weeping.'”
”Marvelous, Mallika! Incredible, Mallika! The deep insight and vision of the Blessed One’s wisdom are truly profound!
Come, Mallika! Fetch me the water for purification before paying homage.”
Thus,King Pasenadi rose, rinsed his mouth, washed his hands and feet, adjusted his clothes, bared his right shoulder, and with hands joined in salutation towards the direction of the Buddha, he paid homage by saying “Homage to the Blessed One” three times.
